For Men
Do you think she's pregnant?
You are not alone in this situation. The two of you can get through this. She needs you now more than ever. It’s important that you provide her with the support she needs - emotionally and physically. Here are some tips on how you do this.
What to do:
Talk with her and listen to her. Always keep the lines of communication open between the two of you. DO NOT close yourself off emotionally. This situation involves more than just you!
Be there for her. She needs you now more than ever before. Hugs and encouraging texts like, “We are going to be okay” and “I know it’s scary, but we are not alone” can keep the hope in her alive for a bright future.
In addition to keeping the lines of communication open between the two of you, it’s important to discuss the situation with parents and others who’ll be directly affected. Talk with the people who care and want goodness for you. Keeping this a secret will only add to the stress – yours and hers.
Educate yourself. Collect information on pregnancy options, parenting, adoption, and learn about the risks and harmful side effects that abortion can have on her physical, emotional, and mental health. Seek advice from people you trust.
Be honest with her and with yourself. Own your emotions and let her know how you feel. You’ll be surprised at how much it will help her when she finds out that you share some of the same concerns.
What Not To Do:
Don’t panic and don’t run from your responsibilities. The more you try to avoid the situation, the harder things will get for you. Don't tell her that you'll support her no matter what decision she makes or that it's her decision. That's confusing. You are capable of handling this with the strength and maturity that is needed.
Don’t pressure her to do what you want, and don’t let her push you away and silence your voice in this decision. You both need to work together. You're a team.
Don't stop communicating with her. Express your feelings and add your input whenever it’s needed, always doing so with respect.